Change can be both invigorating and disorientating. When you come up to a new place you have many conflicts in mind.You probably felt a mixture of excitement and nervousness - what would it really be like? would you cope with the work? what would the people be like? After being there a little time, the differences between your expectations and the realities began to become clear - some things may have been better than you expected, some didn't live up to your hopes, and others were just different.
Away from our family, friends and familiar place, we can find ourselves feeling quite daunted by tasks we would normally have coped with easily. This leaflet aims to help you make the transition as smoothly as possible, so that you can make the most of your time in Roorkee.
Before getting in Roorkee
- You work very hard to take admission, but may not have thought very much about what it would be like once you had arrived. It is very common for people to feel things like these: that you aren't as intelligent as others, or that you won't understand the work, or you feel like an "imposter"
- uncertain whether you are here because you want to be here, or because someone else (e.g. parent or teachers) wanted it
- similarly, the choice of course or subject may not be fully yours, or as you expected
- burdened by the weight of others' expectations - for you to be doing well, or having a wonderful time...
- everyone else may seem to be supremely confident, making friends and doing fine, while you may be feeling quite the opposite!
- you have no one to tell you what to do and how to do
- you are afraid of ragging
- confused whether you have taken correct subject/branch
Some general strategies
First, look after yourself!
Everyone has a different way of thought.It takes time to get to know other people, and for them to get to know you. This means that it is unlikely that others will really know how you are feeling or what you are thinking. Consequently, you need to look after yourself. Putting time and energy into arranging your life here in ways that make sense to you and are enjoyable is necessary.
Know your positive and negative points and your interests
In Roorkee you find number of activities.This is a time when you can experiment and find ways of living that suit you. This can take time. You can't be part of every activity just try to know your interests and enjoy them.But try not to be pressured by others into doing things you do not want to do, that don't feel right for you, or that you are not yet ready to tackle. Allow yourself to work within what you feel able to do, Everyone has a different way of thought.It takes time to get to know other people, and for them to get to know you. This means that it is unlikely that others will really know how you are feeling or what you are thinking. Consequently, you need to look after yourself. Putting time and energy into arranging your life here in ways that make sense to you and are enjoyable is necessary.
In Roorkee you find number of activities.This is a time when you can experiment and find ways of living that suit you. This can take time. You can't be part of every activity just try to know your interests and enjoy them.But try not to be pressured by others into doing things you do not want to do, that don't feel right for you, or that you are not yet ready to tackle. Allow yourself to work within what you feel able to
and don't live a lie: be yourself!
When everything is new, we can waste endless time worrying about things we don't understand or don't know. Don't be afraid to ask; you can save yourself a lot of time and energy by finding out or asking - at the start of the year others will be feeling and doing just the same, so your questions are unlikely to cause any embarrassment. Begin to see these occasions as a challenge rather than as a problem: what can you do to change the situation?
It is easy to be unfit here but it is much easier to be fit and healthy, have a good diet and adequate sleep. If you have been a keen sports-person, it shouldn't be difficult to find ways of maintaining this. If not,you can take advantage of the wide range of sports and gym available in Roorkee - there is almost certain to be something which suits you.
There are times during the term when most people feel pressured. Recognise that this is a common experience, and is not just you! "Listen" to your body and feelings and work with them rather than against them. Here are some other ideas:
- plan ahead to reduce pressure
- use pressure positively - to motivate
- separate others' expectations from your own
- try changing the thoughts "have to" to "choose to"
- put it all into perspective
- reward yourself; give yourself praise for what you have achieved
- you are here after a good preparation
don't be worried about package. Try to learn and enjoy the best you can
Maintain some balance in life
Don't work all the time!
Take time for leisure, physical and social activity, and time to relax. Here are two "rules of thumb" that you may find helpful and could help you work more effectively:
- take some time off work every day
- take a whole day off work every week.
Do work some of the time!
It is important to keep up to date with your work as you can get a backlog very quickly and it can then feel very difficult to catch up. Problems tend to escalate, so have the courage to tackle them early!
Maintain a balance between time alone and time with others
Friends can be a wonderful support - and a great excuse or distraction! Sort out in advance when you will be able to do things together.
Make a weakly plan
Try to make a weakly plan.Weekends are off here and you have activities at weekends.Plan your week accordingly.Don't enter in many activities.try to take only that load which you can handle.
Separate out "work" and "not work" times and spaces
It helps to be clear with yourself when you are, and are not working. Otherwise you can find yourself thinking of all the fun things you're not doing while you are trying to work, and also find it hard to enjoy leisure time as you punish yourself for still having outstanding work. If you have planned out your work and achieved your immediate goals, then allow yourself some fun without any guilt!
If you wonder if Roorkee is right for you after all...
It is very common for new students to wonder if they have made the right decisions about their choice of university or subject. However, the great majority do find their feet and enjoy their work and time here.
For some, though, it may be that this isn't the right place or subject. If you are seriously wondering about this, it is important that you speak to your tutor before you make any final decision. The Careers Service or Counselling Service may also be able to help you find the direction that is best for you.
If you are worried about ragging don't be.Ragging is strictly banned here.Still you need to be cautious.
Getting along with your roommate!!
After coming here roommates can be your best friend and even your best enemy. Sometimes language problem also occurs. Some people have good luck with them and others do not. The thing that you need to understand about roommates is that some are courteous and others are not. You may have roommate who would walk in at 3am in the morning and put all the lights on when you are sleeping. some may be much talkative some will not even talk to you.Try to adjust with your roommates.If you are not able to do so you can apply for a room change.
When you could use some additional support
There is a wide range of excellent support available in the university, and more that is open to you in the locality. You don't have to maintain an "I'm OK" image all of the time! If you feel that you need to talk over how you are getting on in Cambridge, seek out someone to talk to sooner rather than later:
- Friends or family
- Tutor or Supervisor
- Careers Service
- University Counselling Service